A Woman's Walk

so you're talking to a Woman you've known for some bit, and there's attraction there, but since you'll see her again, you're not so aggressive. You guys are leaving the building you both work at. Her company is on the other end, you're on the opposite side. Well you both are chit chattin' it up after work and you notice the way she's walking, she's talking to you to keep you're attention, then she gradually speeds up her walk and you do to, to keep the conversation going.

Well in my experience, when this happens, it's like a hooking method or a test to gauge how interested you are in her. You're walking with her, and she gradually speeds up and walk, but she's talking to you, to hold you're attention, and she's looking if you'll follow her lead, if she'll hook you, if you're interested in her or some combination. You can walk with her at the speed she sets or you can stay your own speed and have her match yours, you can say see you later, or you can stop her. I'd stop her or take my own pace depending on where I'm going. You can stop her by getting in front of her and saying "hold on" while holding her by her sides. If she's walking fast, but not talking to you, that's a sign that she doesn't want your attention. There's a difference if she's talking to you or not.

Now, if she's walking and it looks so sexy. Her body is swaying and fluid. Her legs are strutting, her hips swaying, her waist being stretched from her hips and she's in you're area, very close to you, suggestively and she's looking at you, checking you out. Well, do I have to spell it out? She's very receptive to you.

Movement

There's something about movement. When you go to In and Out because you're hungry and their burgers are better than others and you see a chick. She's walking, hips in motion because her legs are striding, not much upper body movement, but since her legs are moving, which is swaying her hips, and her hips are stretching out her waist... it's so sexy. It's how she moves. I remember someone in High School who had a very distinct walk, but her walk was too "extravagant" that it looked like she wanted attention. It has to be subtle. I can't remember where I read it, oh wait, now I do. Steve Piccus talked about how to gauge a woman's comfort with her body. You look at her hips and if they sway fluidly when she's walking, that's a good sign that she's comfortable with herself. Speaking of books, Sexual Chemistry by Julius Fast talks about movement and how it can be bring sexual chemistry. I just hope no one gets too self-conscious when the move.

Cousin GT

I was chilling with my cousin a couple of hours ago. He's telling me all his stories and experiences and all I can say is "I'm proud" with a grin on my face. He's 16 years old and in the context of Women, he can go to a group of girls, sit down, put his arm around them and start a conversation. A tear falls from my eye. Women love him, well Girls love him. I remember reading a Myspace comment a girl wrote about him "I wish there where more Guys in the world like you." Man I was so happy for this guy. He's only 16!!! Well, when I was 12... around 12 I was flirting with Women who where around 30. Remember the movie Don Juan Demarco, where Don Juan at a young age is at the chapel and all the nuns are smiling at him. That's the overall picture. But this is about my cousin, I mean, he's social, and that's good. He's young and can still improve. A quote well said by him "staring is not going to get you anywhere, you have to go up and talk to her."

What Great Friends Can Do

J is like my brother. He always got my back and I always got his. Well, I had an epiphany of who I was in the past couple of days. See, J, is pretty observant and he would see how I AM and ACT in relation to the environment(venue), people, etc. How I would react to things. Two things came out of this, awareness first, which led to the second thing, adjustment. What he noticed wasn't "negative," it's actually what most guys strive to be on a superficial level. In my opinion however, superficial things most of the times are for show. It wasn't superficial for me however, It was who I am. I was also conditioned that way. Men try to figure out how to be that way. Women Loved it, but also ached as well, and have been driven to certain points. I'm not proud however of some of those things, but I have learned from them.

Me, all I had to do was adjust :)

One-itis

One-itis is when you're so sucked into a girls world that you think about her every second, and you can't stand to live without her, she's your only one, and you feel a need to call her, and talk to her everyday, and more supplicating behaviors. That is not healthy, however, I don't want people to get the wrong impression that loving one woman is a bad thing. There is nothing wrong with having these strong feelings for a woman, that you would think she's the one. It's natural to feel these strong feeling for someone and want to spend your days waking up to them, seeing them asleep laying on her pillow, eyes shut. There's nothing wrong with having an strong desire to want to see someone. It shows your capacity to want.

It shouldn't distract you though. It shouldn't distract you from doing you're own thing. It should distract you from taking care of yourself and being healthy: body, mind and spirit. It's OK to choose to want to be with one person, as long as it doesn't distract you from living your life. Living independently of her. Because you can't care for her if you can't for yourself. A Man can't put food on the table if he's not eating first, because he has to work, and in order to work he has to eat too. Be Independent and recognize it's ok to have strong feelings for one woman.